Dear Abby: I wish people would quit telling me I need to get dressed

DEAR ABBY: A couple of days a week, when I have no plans and no place to go, I stay in my pajamas.

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Dear Abby: Is this woman stalking my fiance?

Dear Abby: Do I go to this lunch and incur my wife’s wrath?

Dear Abby: I suspect the other grandmother posted these horrible photos of me

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They are comfy, and I figure why get clothes dirty just to make more laundry and waste soap and water?

Well, older people tell me I should dress every day.

I don’t see the problem. I shower regularly, wash my pajamas and other clothes, and keep my house and yard clean. I’m not lazy — I just don’t see the value in getting dressed for the sake of getting dressed.

I really wish people would quit telling me how to live my life. What do you think?

— COMFORTABLE IN WISCONSIN

DEAR COMFORTABLE: My late mother used to say that when people look their best, it gives them confidence, which makes them feel better about themselves. She wasn’t wrong.

She also told me that if I didn’t make the effort, invariably I would run into someone I wished I had looked better for. (Alas, also true.)

This may be the message these folks are trying to communicate. However, because you are comfortable wearing pajamas at home a couple days a week, you’ll get no argument from me.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in our 50s. For several months, I have been struggling with an issue I have with my mom. She constantly asks me how much my annual income is and how much my husband makes.

In the 20-plus years we have been married, we have never asked to borrow money from my parents (or anyone, for that matter). We have always worked hard and managed our finances to ensure the needs of our family are met.

Dad is gone now, and for some reason, Mom has become overly invested in knowing our finances. She says she wants to be close to me, but that involves sharing what I deem to be something private between my husband and me. I strongly feel this is none of her business.

In order to shut her up (for lack of a better term), and because she will not accept that it’s not for her to know, I give her a number I make up. Our financial status should not be what determines Mom’s relationship with us.

Am I wrong to feel this is a private matter between my husband and me and none of her business?

I feel Mom is crossing a line. I wonder if she asks close friends how much they and their husbands earn in a month in order to feel close to them. Your thoughts?

— IT’S MY BUSINESS

Asking Eric: So she did her stepsiblings dirty and thought it wouldn’t come back to bite her?

Harriette Cole: I’m afraid I’ll get in too deep on the rich women’s trip

Miss Manners: I don’t want to show them my baby registry

Dear Abby: My cat is acting strange, and I think it’s because of my neighbor

Asking Eric: Our children had to stop my wife from attacking me, and I don’t know what to do

DEAR ‘BUSINESS’: My goodness, talk about emotional blackmail!

You made a big mistake by lying to your mother about your financial status.

I will assume that you have discussed with your husband the problem you are having with her. The next time she pressures you to give her private financial information, tell her this is a conversation she should have with you and him. Then, when Mama says she needs to know about your financial situation, let him ask her why before assuring her that you are secure, and the rest is none of her business.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.