Miss Manners: I was afraid the other customer was going to hit me

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was at a convenience store, with my arms full of groceries. There were three tall young men standing near the register in a group, and I asked if they were in line. They said yes and lined up.

Miss Manners: I’m desperate to remain her friend but … 4 hours of improv?

Miss Manners: I got his emotional text by mistake. Do I tell him?

Miss Manners: I think I’m in trouble with my boss over the business dinner

Miss Manners: The strangers in my yard seem incredulous when I yell at them

Miss Manners: The wedding planner said I couldn’t sit with my partner

When I thought they were finished, I placed my items on the counter and moved forward to the credit card reader, accidentally bumping into one of the men.

He turned to me and said: “Well, you’re in a hurry, aren’t you?” His manner was aggressive and his expression was hostile.

I just stared at him, taken aback. What should I have said or done? I actually thought there was a chance he might strike me.

GENTLE READER: So should you have provoked them?

Miss Manners would not think that you wanted to get into a scuffle with a gang of what you believe to be rude and potentially violent men. But apparently many do. Miss Manners often hears about checkout lines turning volatile, if not lethal.

But not so fast. What about you?

Did you apologize for bumping into him? If not, his remark sounds as if it could have been merely a prompt to do so.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A close friend of over 30 years recently lost her husband and decided to move back to her home state to be near her family.

She moved before selling her house here, which she and her husband had loved. She has now listed the house, but it has had very few viewings and no offers.

I happen to be downsizing and am moving soon. I’m very lucky that my house sold quickly.

My friend seems to be angry with me. She told me that my contract was a bad one — one she would never have accepted.

Our houses are very different: Mine is small, and obviously sold for a much lower price. I’ve never mentioned the price, but it was posted online with pictures, and I know she’s seen those.

When I speak to her or text her, I refrain from talking about myself. I ask about her, her new house (she says she hates it), her vegetable garden, her pets, her family or anything new. I get brief answers on the phone and no response to texts.

I don’t know how to go forward, and I hate to give up this friendship. I know she’s still grieving her recent loss and I would like to be supportive.

Dear Abby: The bride’s mother thinks the wedding was ruined? She needs to apologize.

Asking Eric: My employees have revolted against me, and it’s embarrassing to come to work

Dear Abby: The neighbors took my husband to dinner, and I was left behind

Asking Eric: Does the cousin who hurt my feelings get to come to the expensive wedding?

Harriette Cole: I worry about taking my foul-mouthed husband to work events

GENTLE READER: It is not easy to be supportive of someone whose misfortune takes the form of attacking her supporters. You are kind to keep trying, and fortunate to be able to do this at a distance.

Miss Manners has never cared for the idea that grief gives one license to cause grief for others.

If you are able to persevere, perhaps your friend will someday recognize your kindness and appreciate your friendship. But it would be understandable, if unfortunate, if her anger persists until you feel you have to give up.

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